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Tuesday, July 25, 2006

What a Misogynist Culture We Live In!

Girls today mature at an earlier age than those of only a generation or two ago. Yet it seems that society offers little or no protection for them. On the contrary, society – particularly Hollywood and Madison Avenue – exploits girl’s sexuality. From movies, to MTV, to ads in popular teen magazines, to TV commercials, and even cartoons young girls are brainwashed with the idea that they have to have a certain body type and wear skimpy revealing clothing and act in a sexually outward way in order to be accepted by their peers – particularly by those of the opposite gender.

Children in their primary school years have already developed negative images of girls in their class who are overweight. The popular girls are the skinny ones who wear short skirts. And the really popular ones are those that get to wear make-up and earrings to school. I am talking about 9 and 10 year old girls!

The problem has really gotten out of hand. Historian Joan Brumberg, in her book The Body Project claims that over half of all girls are dissatisfied with their bodies by the age of thirteen. Evidence of this dissatisfaction shows itself in the a variety of ways. Girls begin dieting as early as 8 or 9 years old to get that “perfect body”. Many girls develop eating disorders such as bulimia or anorexia. Teenage girls are increasingly resorting to cosmetic surgery to alter their appearance. And by cosmetic surgery, we are not just talking just the outwardly visible things like botox injections, face lifts, breast implants, liposuction, and the like (as if they were not bad enough).

Girls are now so distraught over the fact that their bodies do not look the way society tells them that they are supposed to, that they are resorting to things like vaginal labioplasty to give themselves “designer vaginas”. When I first came across this topic while surfing the net, I thought to myself, "This must be a joke". I was shocked to find out that it was not a joke at all. In fact, the clinics that offer the procedure have pages of pictures of so-called abnormal vaginas, apparently in an effort to convince you that yours may be another one. On top of that, they even accept credit cards and offer financing plans to help you pay for it. What the…?

It’s not just a girls appearance that is being targeted. It is also how she acts. It’s not cool to be smart or to be like the Walton’s, you have to be cheap and slutty to be popular these days. Rather than aspiring to be an upstanding woman like Condi Rice or Hillary Clinton, today’s girls would rather be like Pamela Anderson or Paris Hilton. I think Ariel Levy hit the nail right on the head when she states that, “Our popular culture has embraced a model of female sexuality that comes straight from pornography and strip clubs, in which the woman's job is to excite and titillate - to perform for men

The women’s movement also has to take some responsibility for this. They were so interested in promoting freedom and liberation for women that young girls got lost in the mix – collateral damage so to speak. They celebrated the sexuality and power displayed by such modern day icons as Madonna, while failing to realize the inherent dangers it posed to young girls. Again, Ariel Levy gets right to the point, “…women have bought into this by altering their bodies surgically and cosmetically, and - more insidiously - by confusing sexual power with power, so that embracing this caricaturish form of sexuality becomes, in their minds, a perverse kind of feminism

The image our society holds of women must change – for the sake of our children. But don’t rely on most men to change it, because they won’t. The sad fact is that our young boys (and men for that matter) are being taught by society that being a misogynist pig is not only acceptable, but its even desireable.

And don’t rely on the women’s movement to change it either. They strayed from the goals of their founders a long time ago. They have aligned themselves too closely with political interests, who themselves have sold out to the moneyed interests. And there is a lot of money to be made in the exploitation of women. The reality is that the women’s movement has betrayed itself.

Elizabeth Cady Stanton must be turning over in her grave!

It is really up to women to change it themselves – at the grass roots level. And that starts at home by fostering a healthy image of women in their daughters – as well as in their sons. Fathers must also reinforce this idea, by their words, as well as their actions. People also have demand more from the public. Money talks – and boycotts work. Make Hollywood and Madison Avenue hurt in the wallet, and they will respond.


At 12:19 PM, Anonymous Roy said...

I could not agree more! The term is Lipstick feminism. Basically the belief that women can objectify themselves to empower themselves. What a load of crap!

That being said I don't believe that we ever have had a strong healthy culture. But rather the screwy, hide problems, let men go wild cultures led us to the point where we are now.

I firmly believe that masculinity is in just as much trouble as femininity. Boys are foolishly led to believe that sleeping with multiple women is somehow immpressive. Likewise, we are led to believe that sex is meaningless to us. That is garbage that has greatly contributed the current state women are in. I think it is well past time that men had a movement and reinvent what it means to be a man. We need to be clear with boys that they don't have to be the toughest or sleep with 100 women and that they too have emotions and need to learn to deal constructively with them.

At 2:36 PM, Anonymous Joe Verica said...

Hey Roy

Thanks for the comments.

Well thought out and well stated!

I think the whole womens movement has looked to put themselves on a parallel with men - if men can do it, woman can do. At the roots, I can understand this way of thinking, but wehn you really break it down, men may not be the best people to model ones movement after.

I agree with your idea of a men's movement. I read two books awhile back that suggested something very similar. One was called "Iron John" the other "Fire in the Belly". Personally, I liked "Fire in the Belly" much better. I would recommend reading it if you get the chance.

At 3:23 PM, Anonymous Me said...

You sound like the father of girls.

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At 9:38 PM, Anonymous obbop said...

Support the Females as Property Movement.

Save yourself, save society and save the girlies from the tremendous burden they have been required to bear since being allowed to enter general adult society.

Some historians believe the burden commenced in 1920 when females were granted the general country-wide privelege of voting.

Sadly, as females gained various rights and priveleges their inability to accept the accompanying responsibilities has harmed those females, males and society as a whole.

The emotion-laden generally irrational female of the human species has fallen short of adult expectations.

We must remove the enormous burden from female shoulders for the good of all.

Admittedly, there IS a very small percentage of females who ARE capable of bearing the burden of adulthood in our modern society so exceptions will be made for those few.

However, easing females out of the requirements of being full-fledged adults and re-assuming their roles of yore will be a blessing in many ways and will assuredly improve the female's general happiness.


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